WEBVTT 00:00.000 --> 00:10.480 Many, Lori is a busy human being. She goes to the CD pipeline on behalf of the CDF with 00:10.480 --> 00:14.200 Tech Strong TV. She is committed to helping open source and other tech communities grow 00:14.200 --> 00:19.600 an adapt in our ever-changing environment and is currently ahead of community for Perkota. 00:19.600 --> 00:21.000 Please join me in welcoming Lori. 00:22.000 --> 00:23.000 Thank you. 00:29.000 --> 00:35.400 Oh, note to self, like, if somebody, I'd never heard that right out loud before and I'm 00:35.400 --> 00:40.000 most likely going to change it. That is an embarrassing, embarrassing thing to hear. 00:40.000 --> 00:45.000 Okay, so we're going to talk about the six degrees of Kevin Bacon open source edition, 00:45.000 --> 00:48.000 but we're going to start with a little bit of an intro. 00:48.000 --> 00:53.000 Not the long one that Leslie just gave, and again, I'm going to delete that profile. 00:53.000 --> 00:58.000 So, my name is Lori. This is a picture of me and my family. That's my daughter Lola and 00:58.000 --> 01:02.000 my dog Luna. Yes, there's lots of elves in our life. It is what it is. 01:02.000 --> 01:05.000 So, as she already said, I'm head of community at Perkota. 01:05.000 --> 01:10.000 And if you were in Robert's talk earlier today, you got to learn a little bit more about our 01:10.000 --> 01:14.000 company, but I will not be talking about Perkota. I'm going to be talking about Kevin Bacon and 01:14.000 --> 01:17.000 the community. So, I'm all those ambassadors. 01:17.000 --> 01:20.000 Blah, but you can also find me on LinkedIn. 01:20.000 --> 01:27.000 And one of the things that Leslie didn't say that I think a lot of people don't realize this about me is that I am shy. 01:27.000 --> 01:34.000 I am easily embarrassed and I'm almost always uncomfortable in most of the situations I put myself in. 01:34.000 --> 01:41.000 But what I have done is I have learned to kind of just smile my way through it unless you 01:41.000 --> 01:45.000 see me on a zoom chat because I can't change, you know, it's a zoom. 01:45.000 --> 01:49.000 But I smiled through my awkwardness and I just tried to move forward. 01:49.000 --> 01:55.000 And one of the things I'm 44 and what I've realized is I'm unapologetically me and I lean into my 01:55.000 --> 02:00.000 weird and I just kind of go with it. I know I'm not everybody's cup of tea, but that's okay. 02:00.000 --> 02:02.000 And so, we're going to learn how to do that together. 02:02.000 --> 02:08.000 But the big thing about me and the thing that I value most is making connections and building relationships. 02:08.000 --> 02:11.000 I actually met Leslie through an interview. 02:11.000 --> 02:14.000 I work for Prakona. She works for Renhat. You saw how that went. 02:14.000 --> 02:17.000 But it doesn't matter. We vibe. It was awesome. 02:17.000 --> 02:20.000 And I think of her as like a mentor and a guide. 02:20.000 --> 02:21.000 Same thing with Shirley. 02:21.000 --> 02:23.000 So, you never know who's going to come into your life. 02:23.000 --> 02:28.000 And I just want to really work with you on how to build those relationships so they can last. 02:28.000 --> 02:29.000 All right. 02:29.000 --> 02:31.000 So, who the heck is Kevin Bacon? 02:31.000 --> 02:34.000 Now, I really feel like I aged myself by picking Kevin Bacon. 02:34.000 --> 02:37.000 So, you might know him from Beverly Hills, caught four. 02:37.000 --> 02:39.000 If any of you have even seen one, two or three. 02:39.000 --> 02:42.000 Or maybe a few good men. 02:42.000 --> 02:48.000 One of my favorite like bad horror movies, if you will, is tremors. 02:48.000 --> 02:50.000 What about X-Men? 02:50.000 --> 02:53.000 But for me, and again, aging myself, 02:53.000 --> 02:59.000 I will always know Kevin Bacon from his quest to dance in the movie Footloose. 02:59.000 --> 03:02.000 He was a city slicker moving to a small town 03:02.000 --> 03:05.000 and all he wanted to do was dance. 03:05.000 --> 03:09.000 And if you haven't seen that movie and you like nostalgia in the 80s, 03:09.000 --> 03:10.000 I highly recommend it. 03:10.000 --> 03:13.000 It is as amazing as their clothes. 03:13.000 --> 03:18.000 Okay. So, what is the six degrees of Kevin Bacon? 03:18.000 --> 03:21.000 And just so you know, if you don't know this little cheat, 03:21.000 --> 03:24.000 you can look at your Google slides on your phone and get your notes. 03:24.000 --> 03:27.000 So, you don't have to worry about dual screens. 03:27.000 --> 03:28.000 So, anyways. 03:28.000 --> 03:31.000 So, he is an American actor in singer. 03:31.000 --> 03:33.000 He's been in over 110 movies. 03:33.000 --> 03:36.000 And he just really, you know, let's just be honest. 03:36.000 --> 03:38.000 He kicks ass and he takes names. 03:38.000 --> 03:40.000 So, what is the six degrees of Kevin Bacon? 03:40.000 --> 03:43.000 So, basically, what they say is that anybody in the film industry 03:43.000 --> 03:46.000 can be related back to Kevin Bacon through their film roles. 03:46.000 --> 03:50.000 And so, today, we're going to enter our inner, our inner, 03:50.000 --> 03:53.000 our, we're going to channel our inner, Kevin Bacon. 03:53.000 --> 03:56.000 So, you can see how you can do this in open source. 03:56.000 --> 03:58.000 So, what I want you to do is kind of take what I'm telling you, 03:58.000 --> 04:02.000 and use the next two days at Fauston, which is a crazy two days, right? 04:02.000 --> 04:05.000 Like, look at all the people in the room, look at all the people in the hallway, 04:05.000 --> 04:07.000 and take the tips that I'm going to give you today, 04:07.000 --> 04:09.000 and see how you can expand your network, 04:09.000 --> 04:13.000 and really become the Kevin Bacon of open source. 04:13.000 --> 04:15.000 So, I'm going to debug this for you guys. 04:15.000 --> 04:17.000 Okay? It's like my one tech thing. 04:17.000 --> 04:20.000 By the way, I'm terrible at slides, so they will only get worse from here. 04:20.000 --> 04:23.000 Just FYI. 04:23.000 --> 04:26.000 Honestly, honestly, okay. 04:26.000 --> 04:30.000 So, number one, the thing you hear all the time is that you have to network. 04:30.000 --> 04:34.000 But the part that they don't tell you is that you should network on your own terms, right? 04:34.000 --> 04:37.000 Like, I'm awkward, I'm weird, I'm uncomfortable. 04:37.000 --> 04:41.000 I'm going to like lean into the things that make me feel less awkward, less weird, 04:41.000 --> 04:43.000 and less uncomfortable. 04:43.000 --> 04:46.000 So, you could strike up a conversation. 04:46.000 --> 04:48.000 Now, this can be really hard, right? 04:48.000 --> 04:50.000 There's a thing called the hallway track, 04:50.000 --> 04:52.000 which if you don't go to conferences very often, 04:52.000 --> 04:54.000 and people talk about the hallway track, 04:54.000 --> 04:56.000 what is that literally it's in the hallway. 04:56.000 --> 04:59.000 You just talk to people, and it's really easy here, 04:59.000 --> 05:01.000 because the hallway always has a cue. 05:01.000 --> 05:03.000 But it's a great opportunity for you to meet people. 05:03.000 --> 05:06.000 Sometimes, like, Robert, he had no time for questions, 05:06.000 --> 05:08.000 so he went outside and hosted his own little hallway track, 05:08.000 --> 05:10.000 where you could ask people questions. 05:10.000 --> 05:13.000 So, it's a great way to kind of network with people. 05:13.000 --> 05:16.000 If you're in the queue, you know that you're kind of have a common interest. 05:16.000 --> 05:17.000 You know, what are you doing? 05:17.000 --> 05:19.000 The other thing is, Faustum is great, 05:19.000 --> 05:21.000 because you don't have name badges. 05:21.000 --> 05:23.000 So, you have to ask somebody what their name is, right? 05:23.000 --> 05:26.000 So, it avoids that awkwardness of someone's badge being flipped 05:26.000 --> 05:28.000 the wrong way, and you don't know their name. 05:28.000 --> 05:30.000 Faustum, you don't have to deal with that awkwardness, 05:30.000 --> 05:32.000 because nobody knows anybody's name anyway. 05:32.000 --> 05:34.000 Also, lunch is a great opportunity. 05:34.000 --> 05:37.000 Like, can you just sit down at a table with somebody you don't know? 05:37.000 --> 05:40.000 And, you know, like, oh, that looks like a good sandwich. 05:40.000 --> 05:42.000 I mean, I know this sounds really juvenile, 05:42.000 --> 05:43.000 but it's true. 05:43.000 --> 05:45.000 This is how you can really start to make connections, 05:45.000 --> 05:47.000 and find out who people are. 05:47.000 --> 05:50.000 If you're like, listen, girl, I'm not trying to like talk to people 05:50.000 --> 05:51.000 in the real, I get you. 05:51.000 --> 05:52.000 I still you. 05:52.000 --> 05:53.000 So, you know what? 05:53.000 --> 05:55.000 The internet is amazing. 05:55.000 --> 05:58.000 So, how many times have you put a comment and get up, right? 05:58.000 --> 05:59.000 And maybe somebody replied back. 05:59.000 --> 06:03.000 That's a good way to kind of strike up a conversation outside of the repo. 06:03.000 --> 06:08.000 The cloud native computing foundation is a screenshot of their Slack channel. 06:08.000 --> 06:10.000 I don't think you can see it, because it's super tiny, 06:10.000 --> 06:14.000 but they have 134,000 people in this Slack channel, 06:14.000 --> 06:15.000 that's insane. 06:15.000 --> 06:17.000 But what did this guy do? 06:17.000 --> 06:19.000 He just posted that he's got a new project, 06:19.000 --> 06:21.000 and he wants to know if anybody wants to work on it. 06:21.000 --> 06:23.000 Is that simple, right? 06:23.000 --> 06:26.000 Like, he's not individually messaging 134,000 people. 06:26.000 --> 06:28.000 He's just putting it in the general Slack. 06:28.000 --> 06:31.000 Hopefully, people will comment, and that's how you go from there. 06:31.000 --> 06:34.000 There's also LinkedIn and Blue Sky, 06:34.000 --> 06:37.000 and that one that will show not be named anymore. 06:37.000 --> 06:41.000 But, you know, use the internet to your advantage. 06:41.000 --> 06:44.000 If you do not feel comfortable talking to people, 06:44.000 --> 06:45.000 that is okay. 06:45.000 --> 06:48.000 This is what the internet is for. 06:48.000 --> 06:49.000 Okay. 06:49.000 --> 06:50.000 Step two. 06:50.000 --> 06:51.000 It's all about the vibe. 06:51.000 --> 06:52.000 It's all about the vibe. 06:52.000 --> 06:54.000 From what do I mean? 06:54.000 --> 06:58.000 My Angela said, I've learned that people will forget what you said. 06:58.000 --> 07:03.000 People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. 07:03.000 --> 07:05.000 And that's super important. 07:05.000 --> 07:08.000 So when you're in the hallway track, talking to a speaker, 07:08.000 --> 07:10.000 don't just say, oh, I love your talk. 07:10.000 --> 07:12.000 Give them a reason why you love their talk. 07:12.000 --> 07:16.000 Like, I love your talk because you called out the value of using X over Y, 07:16.000 --> 07:19.000 or I've been really stuck on this problem in the way that you explained it. 07:19.000 --> 07:21.000 Made me think I can maybe take it to the next step. 07:21.000 --> 07:24.000 This also works if you're doing this online in LinkedIn. 07:24.000 --> 07:26.000 And so you want to link it with me. 07:26.000 --> 07:29.000 You can say, Lori, your talk was amazing because you're just your purple hair. 07:29.000 --> 07:31.000 Really made me think of my grandma. 07:31.000 --> 07:32.000 I don't know. 07:32.000 --> 07:33.000 Whatever. 07:33.000 --> 07:36.000 But it's something that like brings a little bit of you to the conversation. 07:36.000 --> 07:38.000 So that you can stand out. 07:38.000 --> 07:40.000 So somebody can remember you down the line, right? 07:40.000 --> 07:42.000 Because you made them feel good. 07:42.000 --> 07:44.000 You made them feel good about themselves. 07:44.000 --> 07:49.000 So you never, like, don't discount the way that you feel when you're watching something 07:49.000 --> 07:52.000 or talking to someone and bring that back to them. 07:52.000 --> 07:54.000 All the other vibes. 07:54.000 --> 07:56.000 So, set three. 07:56.000 --> 07:58.000 Practice, practice, practice. 07:58.000 --> 08:02.000 I used to be a public teaching speaker for when I was in grad school. 08:02.000 --> 08:04.000 And we had the three teas. 08:04.000 --> 08:08.000 Tell them what you're going to tell them, tell them and tell them what you told them. 08:08.000 --> 08:11.000 So, like, you're constantly kind of repeating yourself. 08:11.000 --> 08:13.000 So you've got to practice this, right? 08:13.000 --> 08:14.000 It doesn't come easy. 08:14.000 --> 08:18.000 Again, I've already, like, told you, I am very awkward and cringy. 08:18.000 --> 08:19.000 There has been several. 08:19.000 --> 08:23.000 I can't even tell you how many times I've tried the in person thing. 08:23.000 --> 08:25.000 And I've walked up to a group of people. 08:25.000 --> 08:27.000 And I sit there and I stand and I wait. 08:27.000 --> 08:29.000 And I'm like, looking for my moment. 08:29.000 --> 08:30.000 Right? 08:30.000 --> 08:33.000 Like, that moment where I'm going to, like, say something super brilliant or smart. 08:33.000 --> 08:36.000 And like, either I say nothing or I say something. 08:36.000 --> 08:38.000 And it's, like, deadpan. 08:38.000 --> 08:42.000 And you just kind of, like, slowly back away and, like, run for the hills. 08:42.000 --> 08:44.000 So, what does that mean? 08:44.000 --> 08:47.000 Like, they say that you never get a first chance. 08:47.000 --> 08:50.000 You only get one chance to make a first impression or however that saying goes. 08:50.000 --> 08:51.000 And I think that's bullshit. 08:51.000 --> 08:52.000 Excuse me. 08:52.000 --> 08:53.000 I think it's bullshit. 08:53.000 --> 08:57.000 You can try and try and try again because, again, it's about the vibes. 08:57.000 --> 08:58.000 It's about the feels. 08:58.000 --> 09:00.000 It's about how you make somebody feel. 09:00.000 --> 09:03.000 So, if I met Leslie and it didn't go well. 09:04.000 --> 09:08.000 And then I, like, then I get accepted to this room and I'm meeting her again. 09:08.000 --> 09:10.000 I'm not going to be like, hey, remember that one time. 09:10.000 --> 09:13.000 I was super awkward and it was really uncomfortable. 09:13.000 --> 09:15.000 She's not. 09:15.000 --> 09:17.000 She's not going to remember that, right? 09:17.000 --> 09:20.000 Because if it meant more to me that I felt awkward and uncomfortable, 09:20.000 --> 09:21.000 then it did to her. 09:21.000 --> 09:24.000 I'm just going to say, hey, I'm super happy to be in this room. 09:24.000 --> 09:27.000 I can't wait to, like, give my presentation. 09:27.000 --> 09:28.000 Right? 09:28.000 --> 09:30.000 So, try and try and try again. 09:30.000 --> 09:32.000 And the same thing is true online, right? 09:32.000 --> 09:36.000 Maybe you think you, like, got this point that you wanted to make and it didn't go through. 09:36.000 --> 09:37.000 It's okay. 09:37.000 --> 09:38.000 Try again. 09:38.000 --> 09:39.000 Just you have to practice. 09:39.000 --> 09:42.000 This isn't, like, something that comes naturally to everybody. 09:42.000 --> 09:44.000 Just don't be afraid. 09:44.000 --> 09:45.000 Okay. 09:45.000 --> 09:47.000 Here's another one that's really cool. 09:47.000 --> 09:51.000 And I love that conferences have started adding this component. 09:51.000 --> 09:53.000 And it's joining in the fun. 09:53.000 --> 09:55.000 Like, networking doesn't always have to be about tech. 09:55.000 --> 10:00.000 Now, here's a bunch of different things that keep caught North America had going on for them. 10:00.000 --> 10:06.000 They had the project pavilion where there were, like, daily tours of, like, ambassadors running you around all the new projects. 10:06.000 --> 10:08.000 So, you could kind of get to learn about them. 10:08.000 --> 10:09.000 They had chair massages. 10:09.000 --> 10:11.000 They had an oxygen bar. 10:11.000 --> 10:12.000 They had a morning run. 10:12.000 --> 10:14.000 So, how many of you are runners? 10:14.000 --> 10:15.000 Right? 10:15.000 --> 10:16.000 Okay. 10:16.000 --> 10:17.000 Cool. 10:17.000 --> 10:19.000 So, like, morning runs, right? 10:19.000 --> 10:20.000 That means it's in the morning. 10:20.000 --> 10:22.000 So, that's early. 10:22.000 --> 10:25.000 I will run there. 10:25.000 --> 10:29.000 But, like, when I run, I run to finish. 10:29.000 --> 10:32.000 So, I cannot talk to you when I'm running. 10:32.000 --> 10:33.000 I don't understand that. 10:33.000 --> 10:35.000 Uh, we had Perkona. 10:35.000 --> 10:38.000 We had an offsite and Peter, that said, who was in the room earlier. 10:38.000 --> 10:40.000 He was like, let's do a morning run. 10:40.000 --> 10:42.000 I'm like, okay. 10:42.000 --> 10:44.000 Uh, Ricardo, who's there. 10:44.000 --> 10:47.000 We had gotten so hammered the night before. 10:47.000 --> 10:48.000 Okay. 10:48.000 --> 10:50.000 I had such bad anxiety that morning. 10:50.000 --> 10:52.000 Like, that anxiety, you know? 10:52.000 --> 10:54.000 And so, when they're like, let's go, I ran. 10:54.000 --> 10:55.000 Okay. 10:55.000 --> 10:56.000 I didn't know. 10:56.000 --> 10:58.000 I was supposed to be talking to Peter and like, getting to know him. 10:58.000 --> 11:01.000 All I knew was that we started and I wanted to finish. 11:01.000 --> 11:02.000 And it was, it was the worst. 11:02.000 --> 11:04.000 They're like, Lori, slow down. 11:04.000 --> 11:05.000 And I'm like, I can't. 11:05.000 --> 11:08.000 You know, it was like, I just had to go because I wanted to be done. 11:08.000 --> 11:11.000 But, oh, renew our session. 11:11.000 --> 11:12.000 Let's do that later. 11:12.000 --> 11:13.000 Okay. 11:13.000 --> 11:15.000 But where do I win with morning runs? 11:15.000 --> 11:18.000 I'm that person that likes to take the picture before we start. 11:18.000 --> 11:21.000 And then I like to take it when we get back. 11:21.000 --> 11:22.000 And what does that do? 11:22.000 --> 11:25.000 That gives me an opportunity then to link in with people later. 11:25.000 --> 11:27.000 So, I can send them the picture. 11:27.000 --> 11:30.000 I suggest that on mine they can tag themselves. 11:30.000 --> 11:33.000 Because again, I know me and I know I'm awkward. 11:33.000 --> 11:37.000 And I know that I can't talk to you when I'm running because like, I'm just trying to go. 11:37.000 --> 11:42.000 But this is my opportunity to bring value back to somebody that's like, hey, I've got the picture. 11:42.000 --> 11:43.000 Here you go. 11:43.000 --> 11:45.000 So, work within your own zone. 11:45.000 --> 11:46.000 You know? 11:46.000 --> 11:48.000 There's like, how many of you have a dog? 11:48.000 --> 11:49.000 Okay. 11:49.000 --> 11:50.000 They had a pet-up. 11:50.000 --> 11:51.000 Okay. 11:51.000 --> 11:54.000 Comforts is anxiety-inducing too many people. 11:54.000 --> 11:57.760 people you want to like zone out you want to like you but you can't go back to your room 11:57.760 --> 12:00.560 because your room's too far away because you didn't book a hotel in time so what do you do? 12:00.560 --> 12:04.960 You go to the pet a pup and you're like I'm just going to like hang out with the dogs not 12:04.960 --> 12:09.440 worry about a thing and then guess what other people are also hanging out with the dogs not trying 12:09.440 --> 12:12.960 to talk to you and then you're like hey do you have a dog and you're like yeah I got a dog 12:12.960 --> 12:17.840 and like cool and then before you know it there you go right you're in your own zone you're in 12:17.840 --> 12:22.880 your comfort space and you're not talking about tech who cares you're talking about dogs 12:23.040 --> 12:26.960 there's also some or cats or turtles I don't know apparently you can put a turtle in a freezer 12:26.960 --> 12:31.760 when you go on vacation and come back and they come back alive oh it's young I'm saying you learned 12:31.760 --> 12:38.400 from weird stuff about people and you're talking about pets like google it don't don't ask 12:38.400 --> 12:43.920 me ask young um okay so one of the things too that I think is really important about networking 12:43.920 --> 12:51.440 that a lot of people kind of miss and to me this is like this is like the best part this to me is like 12:51.520 --> 12:58.160 the part that I live for and it's bringing your peeps with you right you don't have to go 12:58.160 --> 13:04.880 it alone so you just got to give a little to get a lot like yesterday case and point Megan 13:04.880 --> 13:10.960 in the back of the room I know Megan works for the octoproject and I was talking to my friend David 13:10.960 --> 13:16.400 who was saying he was trying to get involved in the octoproject and I'm like oh okay cool hey 13:16.400 --> 13:22.160 David let me go introduce you to my friend Megan and we can go from there right so David and I 13:22.160 --> 13:27.360 are friends Megan and I are friends David doesn't know Megan Megan is no David but guess what that 13:27.360 --> 13:31.760 was the connection and I was the connection for the two of them so bring your friends with you that's 13:31.760 --> 13:37.760 me that was no skin off my back but you're networking you're helping other people network so it's 13:37.760 --> 13:42.400 not just about what you can get out of it it's what can you also bring to the table how can you bring 13:42.400 --> 13:47.760 your people with you to make things easier and to make this easier for all of us in the room 13:48.400 --> 13:54.720 does that make sense yeah okay I think I'm speeding but sorry the talk fast 13:54.720 --> 14:00.640 alright so let's review right the five steps for you to channel your inner Kevin Bacon 14:01.840 --> 14:07.680 number one you got to put yourself out there but network on your own terms awesome powers 14:07.680 --> 14:16.080 in my aging myself come on guys no thank you awesome powers yeah yeah yeah perfect yeah I mean no 14:16.080 --> 14:20.160 one's more awkward than awesome powers right but look he freaking makes it happen you got the 14:20.160 --> 14:28.720 answer um so two so about the vibes right bring a little bit of yourself into a conversation 14:29.360 --> 14:35.040 lean into your weird lean into your awkward lean into your brain power right like but lean in 14:35.040 --> 14:42.320 and leave a lasting impression don't be that person this just like hi be like hey how are you doing 14:44.240 --> 14:50.320 number three practice finding Nemo right you guys you know finding Nemo door you know just keeps 14:50.320 --> 14:57.360 swimming like you can't stop like you just gotta keep trying and it's okay if again if you're 14:57.360 --> 15:02.240 awkward and if you don't do well and if you're like oh my god but again it's only you that's 15:02.240 --> 15:08.160 gonna remember that moment so just you know what check it up shake it off dust off your shoulders 15:08.160 --> 15:14.400 and try again because you're the one that's living with that without feeling but it's just you 15:14.400 --> 15:25.280 so just let it go it serves you nothing all right step four do you move do you right so find that 15:25.280 --> 15:31.120 place in the conference or inner setting that is just nothing to do with tech maybe it's video games 15:31.200 --> 15:37.760 maybe you go to the um there's a there's a group that does um they don't drink but they go get 15:37.760 --> 15:43.520 boba it's like boba something on CNCF right they just go play games and do boba because they're like 15:43.520 --> 15:47.280 I don't want to like go to the bars cool that's awesome maybe you like to go to the bars go to the 15:47.280 --> 15:52.080 bars maybe you like to go dance go dance but just do you and there's so many opportunities to meet 15:52.080 --> 15:59.200 people when you're in your own comfort zone and last you know bring up okay you guys increment please 15:59.280 --> 16:07.520 okay all right bring others with you you don't have to go it alone as much work as you're putting 16:07.520 --> 16:12.320 in sometimes it's just as easy as introducing somebody else and making that connection for them 16:12.880 --> 16:21.360 so you gotta give a little to get a lot and then um so you know information like 16:21.360 --> 16:26.320 this is how you get to your six degrees of open source right so that's my LinkedIn I know I went 16:26.320 --> 16:36.240 pretty fast but I'm here to answer any questions so what you got nothing oh maybe 16:40.400 --> 16:45.680 how do you maintain your network how do you maintain your network okay so that is 16:46.640 --> 16:52.320 she had to ask that question uh so you check in with people every now and then there's nothing wrong 16:52.320 --> 16:56.880 with sending somebody like okay this is like this is awful right when you get those weird LinkedIn 16:56.880 --> 17:02.400 happy birthday messages like I mean what is that that's so weird but if there's something that 17:02.400 --> 17:07.840 reminds you of somebody right maybe you used a tool maybe you you maybe you had a tip that you thought 17:07.840 --> 17:13.520 go back to that network that person and just send them something right so say you learned something 17:13.520 --> 17:20.400 from the previous speaker's talk and she was talking about um loneliness and you could just send 17:20.480 --> 17:25.280 your message like maybe a week from now and be like hey I totally joined this community because I 17:25.280 --> 17:31.920 realized I felt kind of lonely and disconnected and I want to thank you for that so you just circle back 17:31.920 --> 17:37.360 like I know that's really awful like tech jargon circle back but circle back circle back and you 17:37.360 --> 17:41.200 go to conferences tell people you're gonna be there you know you never know you're gonna bump into 17:41.840 --> 17:50.480 it's more people right like use the internet use your email use your slack use your voice and just 17:50.480 --> 17:56.080 share like where you're gonna be never know who's gonna be there yes 17:56.080 --> 18:00.800 LinkedIn for an event like false death feels painfully corporate I feel like if you like bust out 18:00.800 --> 18:05.360 LinkedIn stand outside bust outwards and I'm probably never going to speak together if you're 18:05.840 --> 18:11.920 because it it feels like it's an event for it just it just feels like it's been taken over by 18:11.920 --> 18:17.120 people who are starting book you on time so do you have any better ways of keeping touch with 18:17.120 --> 18:24.640 people other than like professionally out of the main test well you've got email you know but 18:24.640 --> 18:30.880 also here's a deal like yeah LinkedIn has been taken over by our weird corporate overlords and 18:30.880 --> 18:36.480 others videos popping in all the tape ignore that shit like and that's why you that's why you do 18:36.480 --> 18:40.720 you that's why you bring the vibe so you're like yeah like I don't care how many of you scan this 18:40.720 --> 18:44.480 but just go ahead and send me a message while you scan it like nothing is worse than when you 18:44.480 --> 18:48.560 get a bunch of LinkedIn notifications you have no idea who they are and you don't want to say no 18:48.560 --> 18:52.320 and then you're like okay now it puts the the pressure on the person they're like okay do I 18:52.320 --> 18:57.440 know anybody that knows this person right like how do I know you how do we like and then then 18:57.440 --> 19:02.960 there's no there's no actual connection so yeah this seems weird because we're phosim and it's 19:02.960 --> 19:07.760 all cool and hippie or whatever you still know name badges right and let's be honest typing 19:07.760 --> 19:12.160 somebody's email address could be pretty freaking painful and so just you know just do it but then 19:12.160 --> 19:18.160 send them a message say hey I'd love to just chat with you like here's my email address boom so 19:18.160 --> 19:23.440 don't worry about it being corporate it is what it is we got to connect somehow yes 19:27.440 --> 19:37.920 do you ever go to people or they're in a context those away the connection cannot be allowed 19:39.280 --> 19:44.160 going now it goes back to the maintain it if you're going to use the context 19:44.160 --> 19:54.640 where you connect that it's up so you try to bring something new to the table right so again when 19:55.120 --> 19:59.280 circle back to that person say hey I know we were talking about this or we were working on this but 19:59.280 --> 20:05.360 this is this new thing that I'm doing like what do you think about that like you you know when you say 20:05.360 --> 20:12.400 that you lose the network like but do you did you put enough in to remember why you connected 20:12.400 --> 20:17.760 with that person in the first place because you can always go back to that one like meeting and say hey 20:17.760 --> 20:21.760 remember when I met you at phosim and we were talking about whatever or in that session or that 20:21.760 --> 20:26.320 guy that smelled was like sitting next to us and that was like hilarious we were laughing hey I'm doing 20:26.320 --> 20:33.360 this thing now do you want to jump in like so it's it's just about like remembering why you connected 20:33.360 --> 20:38.400 to them in the first place and then bringing the conversation to something new does that make sense 20:39.680 --> 20:47.840 okay hey we good you have even more time and if you were done I was going to come up and have 20:47.840 --> 20:52.000 my own little personal blah blah but do you want to do your personal blah blah does any more 20:52.000 --> 20:58.800 questions what heard you heard personal blah blah well thank you guys oh yes let's do important yeah 20:59.840 --> 21:05.440 be sure if you're thinking for a while we straight maybe you can get by your connection with 21:05.600 --> 21:13.840 right now how you keep your link game for example uh for file help me like I'm me personally I'm 21:13.840 --> 21:19.280 most of the big connections that you know and then after events especially do you accept everyone 21:19.280 --> 21:29.120 in your network yes why yeah if you know why what's your way of keeping your connection 21:29.280 --> 21:34.960 like in that profession what will be done by her do you have me like talking about some 21:34.960 --> 21:42.240 brother you folks you know right so I think like where I went wrong was uh with the with the 21:43.040 --> 21:48.960 the tool that's not being named anymore um back in the day right like you just were like following 21:48.960 --> 21:52.880 following following and friending friending friending and then you're like who the heck are any 21:52.880 --> 21:57.760 of these people but it was all about the numbers right I think for me LinkedIn is literally about 21:57.840 --> 22:03.440 the connection so if like everybody in this room hits me up but like nobody says hey I saw your 22:03.440 --> 22:10.160 talk at Fossom like then I I'm not gonna I'm not gonna accept your your request you know like again 22:10.160 --> 22:14.880 it's about bringing that vibe and bringing that little piece of personality and if you don't want 22:14.880 --> 22:21.120 people to link in with you then don't share right again that work on your own terms if you're like 22:21.920 --> 22:27.360 and I'm not like calling you out but I'm just saying like um if you want to keep your network nice and 22:27.360 --> 22:33.040 tight then give out an email address right but make it like an email address that's your like 22:33.040 --> 22:37.360 this is my networking email address that I like I check every now and then like and like that's 22:37.360 --> 22:41.600 totally fine right because that's your comfort zone like if your LinkedIn is like this is literally like 22:41.600 --> 22:47.760 my home base for the people that I am doing work with then keep it that way keep it secure right 22:47.760 --> 22:55.120 like there's no right or wrong way on how to do this but again do you like be as out as you want to 22:55.120 --> 23:00.080 be be as closed off as you want to be but don't forget like you do need to network and you do 23:00.080 --> 23:10.400 need to kind of bring people into your fold yeah yeah it's hard when you're like so coming from 23:11.840 --> 23:15.920 like from someone that's never on stage to being on stage like I used to be the person that pushed 23:16.080 --> 23:22.080 my my peeps on stage it is kind of like overwhelming like when everything comes in but for me 23:22.080 --> 23:28.240 I'm like that's cool like I like I'm cool with it like thinking with me it's fun but it's weird when 23:28.240 --> 23:33.840 somebody lives you know some country I've never been into like and there's no connection there's no 23:33.840 --> 23:40.320 whatever I won't accept those some like who are you yeah awesome and how many do you think I'm 23:40.320 --> 23:54.960 so sorry so I don't normally do this as the community devil organizer but I feel like these 23:54.960 --> 24:00.400 times make it okay for me to take a moment to express some thoughts to all of you especially since 24:00.400 --> 24:04.400 I think they're instructive and light of the talk that we're about to listen to and that is 24:05.200 --> 24:09.600 folks the community devil is a safe space we welcome people who are going to treat each other with 24:09.600 --> 24:14.640 kindness and respect and whatever is going on in the world right now fundamental human rights 24:14.640 --> 24:27.360 are not up for debate thank you if you have any questions about why fundamental human rights 24:27.360 --> 24:33.040 are not up to verbate I would suggest that I wish you the best of success in your quest not in 24:33.040 --> 24:45.200 the community devil room thank you very much I have a big old rant here and I'm not going to 24:45.200 --> 24:51.600 do it very long okay so we are now very excited and I'm going to start talking a little bit earlier 24:51.600 --> 24:59.120 than we anticipated just as we are queuing etc to welcome our next speakers and since I have 24:59.120 --> 25:04.800 two speakers whose bios I am going to need to read I am going to start the introduction a little bit